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"I can no longer" - what you can do when nothing works

Do you know the feeling when everything grows over your head? Is everything just too much? When you long for rest and relaxation, but nothing seems further away? “I can't go on” is a normal and even helpful thought in these cases. In this article you will find out why it is so widespread, why we rarely mention it and what you can do when nothing works.

“I can't go on” - you are not alone with this thought

Many people know that feeling overwhelmed. Whether at work or in private life - sometimes everything is too much. However, you may think that this is only you. Why does it seem like everyone else is in control of their lives? You kick yourself off while your colleague seems to manage everything. You feel hopeless while the neighbor always seems in a good mood. When you ask “How are you?” You rarely get a “Not good. I can't go on ”to the answer. The thought and feeling of being overwhelmed is much more widespread than you think. In our culture we just don't talk about it.

Why we talk about it so seldom

Higher faster further. We live in a society in which it is often a matter of achieving as much as possible. And preferably in the shortest possible time. It is difficult to say “I can't anymore”. After all, we don't want to show weakness to others. We do not allow ourselves this thought or we ignore it. The thought is not socially acceptable - it actually wants to help. It is like a warning signal, an alarm function. He wants to protect us. He shouts: “Stop! It can not go on like this!". This voice gets lost in the hustle and bustle of everyday life. But the burdens remain.

“I can't go on” - a typical thought in depression

If the thought “I can't anymore” keeps shouting, additional complaints such as depressed mood, hopelessness or loss of interest come and last longer than two weeks, depression may be present. Depression is one of the most common mental illnesses worldwide. Sometimes the thought “I can no longer” can hide the idea or the wish that you no longer want to live. When nothing works and there seems to be only one way out. More than half of people who suffer from depression have had thoughts of suicide or tired of life.

What can you do about suicidal thoughts?

If you think about suicide, speak to someone about your thoughts and get help. Such thoughts are a common symptom of depression. Depression is treatable and getting support is not a sign of weakness, on the contrary. Contact your doctor, psychotherapist or psychiatrist. You can also call the telephone counseling (0800-111 0 111) anonymously around the clock.

If you are in an acute crisis, have thoughts of suicide and don't know what to do, you can present yourself to a psychiatric clinic at any time of the day or night. You can also go to the crisis service or call the emergency doctor (112).

“I can't go on” - a typical thought in burnout

The desk just doesn't want to empty. The tasks pile up to the ceiling. You feel exhausted and drained. Burnout is a state of permanent exhaustion. “I can't go on” is a typical thought here too. The head looks like it has been swept empty, the concentration disappears - all of this means that you can no longer achieve as much as you did before. With more commitment and longer working hours, you still try to master the workload. Paradoxically, the performance decreases even more and increases your stress level. A vicious circle arises. Why is that so?


The story of the forest worker

A forest worker went into the forest with his saw and began to cut trees with great enthusiasm. In the first few days he made good progress. But after a while, the work began to get harder and more arduous. In order to achieve the same performance as before, the forest worker tried twice and toiled late into the night. Even so, he managed less and less every day. The forest worker got angry and tried again and again to increase his pace. Without success. A stroller came by and watched the forest worker sweating with the effort for a while. Then he asked, “Good man, I think your saw is blunt. Wouldn't it make more sense to sharpen it and then continue working? " The forest worker looked up annoyed from his work and angrily called out to the strollers: “I don't have time for that. I have to saw. "

What can you do when nothing works anymore?

The saw from history is your mind and body. If you use them without a break, they can become "dull". You can “sharpen your saw” by pausing, relaxing, and doing yourself good.

Take time to rest

Less working time and thus more work? That can't be right. Yes, because rest breaks increase your performance. Consciously take time off and create a balance between work and relaxation. Make time every week for your hobbies, e.g. cooking a delicious dinner or attending a sports class. If you think “I should really do something now” think about it: You are doing something! You sharpen your saw, you increase your well-being, your health and even your productivity - by recovering.

Talk to others

Think about how you would feel if a friend told you that they were overwhelmed and said "I can't anymore." How would you react? Most likely you would comfort and encourage them.

Confiding in others is not always easy. Especially when you have the feeling that everything is getting too much for you while everyone else is “working”. If you are open about it, you may be surprised how many feel the same and meet with understanding.

Get professional help

If stress and the thought “I can no longer” persist, we recommend that you seek support from an expert. You are not alone with your feelings of being overwhelmed. Symptoms of depression or chronic exhaustion can be treated. Cognitive behavioral therapy has proven to be particularly effective. If you would like to deal with the topic more intensively, we have summarized helpful tips and information for you. For example, how you can find a place in psychotherapy and how psychotherapy works.

Online training for depression and burnout

Online training has also been shown to help reduce discomfort. At HelloBetter, for example, we have developed online training for depression prevention and online training for Fit in Stress. The training can, among other things, support you to incorporate daily strength-giving activities into your everyday life. Because you consciously recharge your batteries, the thought “I can't do more” can become less and the feeling of relaxation more can become more.

Categories Depression, StressTags Burnout, Depression, Psychotherapy, Self-Help, Stress Management