Can you imagine a world without lies?

Human Behavior: Why We Would Be Lost Without The Lies

In all honesty, how many times have you been dishonest today? Have you cheated, cheated, cheated, whistled? Not a single time? From a purely scientific point of view, that would clearly be a lie. Some psychologists and communication researchers claim that we lie about 200 times a day; Assuming that we are awake 16 hours a day, that would mean that we are twisting the truth 12.5 times an hour. There is a lot of controversy about this number: Completely exaggerated, say other psychologists and communication researchers. Rather, it is correct that we all say the untruth about twice in a ten-minute conversation.

However, it doesn't really matter which number is correct, because all lying researchers agree on one thing: We all tie up bears and bend beams while lying, albeit with a guilty conscience. And we would never admit that anyway. But why actually? Why do we treat the lie so badly? Do you miss short legs and a long nose? We are doing their wrong by doing this.

Without untruths, our social system would collapse

Lying is an important means of communication, a skill that we have to learn painfully as children, for example when the sentence slips out over a Sunday cake among relatives: "Mama said, Aunt Leni is also getting fatter!"

The lie is a kind of social lubricant; without skillful cheating, our entire social system would collapse. How important and indispensable it is, we would notice if we lost the ability to fuss. On a day without a lie we would offend many people or make them very unhappy - and would become lonely, unemployed and broke ourselves. Instead of “Good morning, how are you”, we would call out to the curious neighbor a loud “Yes, that was a slightly drunk and very good-looking man last night that I took into my apartment, you old witch!”.

We'd mess it up with friends and relatives

We would throw at the head of the nice, but ugly acquaintance, "This terrible new step cut is at least distracting from your teeth". We would our colleagues

instead of a friendly "Sorry, I can't get away, I'm up to my ears in work" to hiss: "I really don't feel like having lunch with you guys and bores." In the tax return we would have to admit that all non-fiction books that we dropped are actually Swedish crime thrillers. The interview would reveal that the “language course” in the south of France was just one beach party and that “impatience” is still the best of our bad qualities. Our grandmother's heart would be broken if she found out that we have been choking down her hunter schnitzel in disgust since we were children. And our loved one would also be disappointed if we had to tell him that the joy of the bourgeois pearl necklace at Christmas was only a play - in reality we were hoping for an iPod.

Most lies are for self-protection

And what about “I'm just looking at Arte”, “I haven't been to McDonald’s for years”, “I broke up with her!”, “I love you like on the first day”, “What email? It must have ended up in the spam folder! ”,“ I have to hang up, someone rings the doorbell ”,“ I would have really liked to help you move, but my godmother is celebrating her 70th birthday on the weekend ”,“ Oh, oh, I'll come ! "?

Very few lies are evil and mean. Lies researchers have found that 50 percent of the time we lie for so-called prosocial reasons - to make it easier to live and work together - as well as for altruistic reasons, such as the Jägerschnitzel and the pearl necklace.

Even in love, one shouldn't always tell the truth

Even in love you have few chances without a lie. In the classic “boy meets girl” classic, skillful cheating is a basic requirement in order to get closer to the other. The sociologist Karl Lenz describes the baseless addressing of the object of desire as a “violation of the ritual order of interaction”, since one penetrates the “conversation reserve” of the other, which is perceived as “desecration of the person”. If you translate this sociological German, you realize that each of us is familiar with such incidents: If we are approached by strangers on the street or in a restaurant, we initially react cautiously or even suspiciously.