What is your happy thought

Be happy, how does it work? (just a thought away from happiness)

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Be happy. Everyone is talking about it and nobody is. Most people get lost in their thoughts in search of happiness, precisely about that. If we believe brain research, we have about 60,000 thoughts a day. If we got a dime for every thought we thought, we'd all be filthy rich and yet far from being happy. Most thoughts are repetitions and so we reproduce the same state of mind day after day and let our carousel of thoughts pick up speed. We even support it. Quite voluntarily! Because nobody forces us to do it, right?

The really paradoxical thing about this fact is that we still assume that something new is going on in our lives. Even though we think the same thoughts every day, we react and act in the same way over and over again and experience the same feelings.

The I of the past

When your ego keeps mentally reminding you of who you supposedly are - in relation to the outside world - you are creating the same mindset over and over again. What about you when you wake up in the morning, your sensory perceptions remind you again who you are, where you are and you find yourself in your reality? You start your morning routine.

An example:

Always wake up according to the same schedule, a quick glance at the cell phone, the curtains open and the day can begin. Sneaking past the mirror quickly - you'd rather not greet yourself in a friendly way that early in the morning - because you don't think you're that horny. Then you get dressed up to meet other people's expectations and go to work. You routinely choose the fastest route here too, after all you have no time to lose in the morning.

Losing time is a really dramatic scenario today that we believe we cannot afford. In the job, everything is done just as routinely, sometimes more or less reluctantly and often enough on Mondays with the urgent wish for the weekend, which in most cases always runs the same. Welcome to the past from which your ego joyfully creates your future and thus undermines the present, your now.

Anyone who thinks they know everything beforehand will not experience anything new

Worse still, we stay firmly anchored in the past and thus mostly in bad times. Be happy - not a result. We limit ourselves by repeating the same thoughts, actions, and feelings over and over again. If we let our life, and thus ourselves, be determined by our cherished routines, we create a reality that restricts us in all areas. Often enough, we think we know everything beforehand and are amazed that the same events always catch up with us. And we keep getting disappointed. We become slaves to our past, not brave enough to break new ground. We already know everything.

The carousel of thought turns and we keep thinking about our problems. Our past merges with our future and there is no trace of the present moment to be found. We then sprinkle a bit of glitter on it by trying to buy our luck. Here a pair of new shoes and there a new handbag, a sinfully expensive vacation and a lot of fanfare, not only to give ourselves the feeling of completeness, but also to impress those around us. Because that's where another part of our daily thoughts hangs.

The habitual self is born. We only react to external appearances, the well-known, but never changing, environment. We have ceded control to ego and no longer believe in our dreams. But we do believe we know what others might think of us and prefer to adapt.

What others think of you is none of your business!

We spend so much time wondering what someone else might think of us that we bend ourselves until the bars crack. Bent so much that we could dance limbo under the carpet, our apparent self becomes the facade of our real self. And if we were to be completely honest with ourselves, we would see that we mutilated ourselves almost beyond recognition just to please. This is insane, because only a maniac would mutilate himself.

If we stick to these thoughts, we fail to recognize ourselves and pretend we are someone else. A lousy game in which there can only be losers. Be sure the others - whom you think about so much - feel the same way. Any thought about what someone else might think of you is a wasted thought. Completely meaningless and not purposeful. The only thing that is nourished by it is Mister Doubt and his friend Mister Inferior.

Between yesterday and tomorrow ...

we lose ourselves if we continue to believe that in the future we will have to pay for what happened in the past. Being happy is impossible and simply not possible. Realize that the past has no meaning. It is over. There is no guilt and nothing to be punished for. The only thing that happens is that you attack yourself. The past has no power over you unless you choose to do so and take control of it. This power will use ego and attack you in the present. This is his retaliation. This decision to give the past power over you is the decision for future pain. And at the same time the loss of the present.

Between yesterday and tomorrow lies the now, the present moment, devoid of thoughts. Free of judgments and judgments, no evaluation. You are just there. Bliss and peace shine within you, a state that words cannot describe. Can you imagine what it means to have no worries, no grief and no fears? Fear - and with it all related aspects, such as anger, hate, envy, grief and worry - does not belong to the present, but only to the past and the future that is created from the past.

Thinking all the time is an addiction

Thinking all the time is an addiction, like other addictions. Alcohol, drug, cigarette, consumption or gambling addiction ... If we pronounce the word addiction slowly, that is, the U long spoken, this word takes on a whole new meaning. We are looking for! We follow our thoughts in the hope of salvation, relief, love and peace. But we will never find it in our minds.

It's not about understanding more or putting more intellectual knowledge into any practice, but rather practicing not to think. One way out of your addiction to thoughts is to become aware of the present and to recognize what is and to accept it. Because ego has only one goal: to hold on to the illusion of the past and the future by being constantly busy.

How you get out of there

A tool on your way to more awareness of the present moment can be, for example, post-its with small messages for you, which you put in places where you can see them again and again. For example, write on small pieces of paper: Now - Present or use a symbol for it. The awareness and awareness of the present moment means that the thoughts stand aside, perhaps not completely disappear, but that something else takes their place. I call it mindfulness, awareness, or presence.

Another option is to stop using your senses to judge or to name things. We are used to naming everything, judging or judging everything. Instead, look at things without the compulsion to give them a meaning or a name.

A small example: “Oh, there is a flower. But that is a beautiful flower. What might it be called. What kind of flower is that? ”As you can see, you are following your thoughts at this very moment and let yourself be distracted once more from the magical moment, from the now. When you know what kind of flower that is, let the thought come and then let it go again. Practice perceiving things without interfering with mental concepts.